“To be happy for what we have or to be unhappy for what we don’t have”
Which one do you want?
I am disciplining & learning myself to be happy with what I have, but the monkey in my mind drags me to the other side many times and the result is, myself getting sad.
Hmm… still a long way to go dear readers. I know many are there like me. Let us keep fighting with that monkey mind and dominate it with “Count your blessings”.
When you find other people are worse off than you are, you will learn to count your blessings. Realize that there are good things about your situation and learn not to complain too much. Be thankful & grateful for what you have.
Count your blessings,
Daily in the morning,
Daily in your prayers,
Daily before you sleep.
Count your blessings ,
Whenever you are grateful,
Whenever you are happy,
Whenever you are sad.
Count your blessings,
Whenever you get,
Whenever you give,
What ever you get.
Feel how beautiful your life transforms when you regularly practice this. I know, life is full of ups & downs, but I will assure you that this will make you mature enough to accept the facts & act accordingly with self content.
This is the base for self-improvement. With this practice you will learn to identify others who fake in front of you.
“We seldom think of what we have, but always of what we lack” – Scho Penhauer.
So, the choice is always ours, whether we need to be happy and grateful with what we have or just regret or suffer or be unhappy with what we do not have. Rest you need to decide it my dear readers.
Yes! Eustress is the stress that keeps us healthy and happy.
You may all ask me,
What! How come a stress keeps us healthy and happy? There is no way, stress only leads to depression.
Yes I do agree with you. But to your knowledge there are positive stress and negative stress. Almost all of us are aware of negative stress that leads its way to depression and yes, there is also this positive stress named EUSTRESS which will only make you happy. It is a stress that leads to the feelings of excitement and delight.
This name EUSTRESS was derived from Greek prefix ”Eu” means ”Good” by the famous endocrinologist Hans Selye.
Let me give some examples which almost everyone should have experienced it and many might cherish those still.
Almost all of your firsts. The first day at a new job, proposals and dates, day of marriage, pregnancy, holding a baby for the first time, seeing your crush, your first bike ride and car rides, travelling to your favorite places, a scary movie, the excitement of a roller- coaster rides, playing games and all those amusing challenges come under the wings of Eustress.
This kind of stress always inspires you and shoves you to perform, grow, and learn as a better person.
Hence, eustress is a must for our overall wellbeing.
Signs of eustress in you :-
Accepting challenges of your limit and working on it positively.
Accomplishing your smaller goals which paves way for achieving a larger goal.
Being in a motivated mood.
Being happy and helping others without expectations.
Loving yourself and approaching problems in a positive way.
Too much of anything is good for nothing. Yes you cannot be in an elated mood always, you will definitely need some time to relax yourself and rest well in your leisure time. Stress management is an ocean and eustress is like getting a pearl from the ocean. So, my dear readers learn to use this pearl(eustress) in your life rather than embracing the distress(negative stress).
"It's not the stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it"- Hans seyle
The capability of making your stress into an eustress definitely needs a lot of practice, but its result can bring a lot of fruitful change in your stressed life. It all depends on your perspective. Thanks for reading it and always stay positive.
“You are what your gut bacteria eats “- Dr.Ayala, Physician(Pediatrics and medical genetics)
Your gut works healthy when you have daily bowel release without any abdominal pain and bloating. So, only your lifestyle and healthy eating habits play the most significant role in shaping your gut microbiome. Eating fiber rich foods not only nourishes and energizes your gut but also maintains it healthy in a long run.
Ok my dear readers, lets jump straight into the 10 important points for a healthy gut.
1- Drink enough amount of water or green teas or juices, soups and always stay hydrated.
2-Have a healthy balanced food and maintain a healthy body weight. Please don’t over-eat or crash your food intake.
Say in mind always that “We are eating to bring good health and not for taste alone”.
Are you someone who finds joy and peace of mind during rainy days, then you are a PLUVIOPHILE. A pluviophile will feel rain as, a lover who has been away from you and has finally come back to you. That much of happiness they feel when it rains.
The notable persona of pluviophiles:
They are introverts and have calm personality.
Nostalgic about rain.
Good listeners, they love to sit in silence and listen to the beating of rain droplets.
Talented people and their mood is highly influenced by rain.
Addicted to sound and smell of rain when it hits the earth and sounds of running water streams.
When it rains, everything becomes more Beautiful:
Whenever it rains, everything gets cleaned and a new look is achieved. We can even see the plants and flowers changing amazingly beautiful after rain. Even Earthworms come outside only when it rains. The sky also looks bright, clear and alluring.
Rain, the Healer:
“Rain produces a sound akin to white noise. The brain gets a tonic signal from white noise that decreases the need for sensory input, thus calming us down”, says the therapist and anxiety-depression specialist Kimberley Hershonson.
I can sincerely say, that rain is the nature’s soul cleanser. Whenever it rains, almost everyone likes to grab their favorite drink and occupy their favorite place and enjoy the rain. I like to sip a cup of hot chai with vada or bhajji and watch those rain bubbles endlessly. It’s one of those times when I forget all my worries and I firmly believe that rain evokes the positive vibes inside us.
Rain, Brings out the child in you:
Though many adults may hesitate to puddle in water, children are attracted to rain puddles each and every time. They either chuckle jumping on it and feel the splashes or float things like paper boat on it and much more. Elders cherish those scenes and usually tend to remember their childhood days. I have seen many people playing and dancing in the rain like children.
Though many people think rain as a nuisance sometimes, because of having to disrupt their plans, clothes getting soaked, fear of getting cold, I request you all to enjoy the rain and be thankful to the magical nature. Yes, rain is the heaven’s and the nature’s way of blessing and beautifying the world, thereby creating a way for life.
If you are a Pluviophile, then you should definitely visit these best 5 places. Additional Pluviophile loving places are Kerala and Meghalaya in India.
Dear readers, let us all enjoy the pluviophile nature in us and create cherishing memories. Thank you for coming and reading it. Always stay happy with positivity.
Welcome to the Work from home era. Covid 19 has totally changed the way of working and life has become more complicated to earn money. With jobs becoming more and more competitive, workers are obliged to be committed more. Traditional work hours has been abandoned. Many will be multitasking, trying to balance their home life and office life.
But definitely the office life will be dominating your personal life, right! Working late nights and virtual discussions should have become a new normal.
Work-life balance doesn’t mean giving equal hours for work and personal life. It is something connected with the right time spent for working and the right time spent with family and doing things that you like. I know that it all depends upon the job you have, personal situations, age and hobbies, we can never neglect that.
There is a famous proverb saying,
”Work while you work & play while you play”
If you mix up both then you are going to suffer with work-life imbalance. If this still continues for a long time then you are creating distress for everyone. You are also prone to physical and psychological stress leading to lack of focus and degrading productivity.
With greater works being piled up daily, the employees are forced to fulfill the demands on or before the said time. If not, then they might even lose their job or get scolded from the higher ups. Work from home comes with many perks, the top most one is saving time and money for commutation. But each and every individual has his/her own pros and cons.
Working from home also had its own disadvantages like many felt isolated, many were unable to face the reality, many got demotivated, even many faced emotional distress. Parents got an additional job of becoming a full-time teacher for their kids. Some might relax with grown up children, but think about the small kids.
PROVED RESEARCH POINTS INACHIEVING HEALTHY WORK-LIFE BALANCE
1- Create boundaries between work and personal life. Often try to do work-life balance surveys.
3- If work load is very heavy, learn to say no and avoid that extra pressure developing in you.
4- Set some time to do things that you like. Creating a routine schedule will help and train others to adapt, thereby trying to get some personal time.
5- Respect people in home, help them and never take them for granted.
6- Learn to be grateful for what you have, especially loving people around you.
7- Definitely start to learn yoga. It is the best way to relax the body, mind and soul.
Staying healthy helps you to achieve a healthy work-life balance.(Tell me, who dosen’t like healthy people as their employees)
8-Become a little social or follow Peer Therapy – Taking time for others and sharing each other’s feelings.
9- Appreciation and rewarding is another vital power pack in boosting good work-life balance.
10- Planning works ahead will boost the good work-life balance.
Definitely, this new Covid 19 reality made us to think and do things differently. For example, with the absence of domestic help many faced domestic burden especially in maintaining homes, preparing food, taking care of children, sick people and elderly people.
But sharing the work between family members and accomplishing it, helping each other, spending time with our closed ones and children, concerning family, friends and relatives, pursuing a hobby, learning a new skill, many work from home job opportunities made us to win this crisis.
Kuddos to all those women and men who did it single-handedly. Yes, that is a huge challenge to do.
Whatever the situation is, productivity should never get hampered. Yes, who thought we would consult online with doctors? A lot has been taken care now because things need to be done.
A person who is fully dedicated and sincere to work alone, tends to lose his family’s affection and a person who is dedicated to family alone, tends to lose jobs.
I recommend every company to have a healthy company culture and wellness culture thereby nurturing a good work-life balance. Work-life balance is not a far-fetched dream, it requires confidence, consistence and will power to achieve it.
Our Gut runs the vital duties like the intake and absorption of nutrients from the food we eat and the water we drink, thereby protecting, nourishing and maintaining overall health of our body. If your gut’s function is improper then you are falling prey for diseases.
Ok, so what is this Gut?
Medical science says, “It is a very long tube starting from the mouth and ending at anus”.
Hence, the collection of organs like mouth, esophagus, stomach, pancreas, liver, gallbladder, small intestine, colon and the rectum is called as Gut or Gastrointestinal tract.
Whenever you are hungry or thirsty, it is the work of the gut to pass the information to the brain and in turn the brain gives the signal as to when to eat or drink. Even with the digestion process both works together.
For example, if you had a lighter meal the brain signals to follow an easy digestion, and if you had a heavy meal the brain signals it to hold the food in the stomach for a little longer time and results in slow digestion. Only when your food is sufficiently broken down, the gut gets signals from the brain to send it to the intestine.
Brain can affect your gut heatlth and the gut can affect your brain health
Millions of neurons are involved in this connection. The vagus nerve is the biggest nerve connecting the brain and the gut. The neurotransmitters are the chemicals connecting the brain and the gut.
The Gut Microbes Influence the Bodyand the Mind
When a microbe enters your body the brain signals and makes the gut to be fully aware of that microbe. The microbe can be a bacteria or virus or fungi or a cluster of them. Research has proved that the healthy gut produces single chain fatty acids(SCFA) like butyrate, propionate and acetate. These not only helps to absorb the nutrients but also act as the repairmen of our body.
When we get a cut on our skin, the skin starts the immediate process of repairing and covers it with a new skin layer, which we can see through our naked eye. The same process is done by these SCFA inside our body.
Now imagine, when a handful of nails is put in your thin drainage pipe in the sink, the pipe gets teared a lot here and there and thereby leakage starts. Similarly, whenever you eat harmful foods the super soft gut lining undergoes harsh treatment and gets teared here and there causing leakage of microbes into your body. As a result, our internal organs are easily exposed to harmful microbes. They start to attack the internal organs and if your immunity is low then you start to become sick.
So your gut needs to have ample stock of SCFA inside and repair the leakage of microbes fast. Active lifestyle and healthy fiber rich foods produces lots and lots of SCFA.
The gut microbes controls what is passed into the body and what is excreted. The microbes in your gut are so powerful that its quality dominates your mind and have you under their perspective. So, having good bacteria in dominance is preferred a lot. Below is the image of gut microbes.
TIP – If you are craving something like food or drink or a snack, check whether your mind is craving it or it is the cravings of insatiable microbes. If you know this then you can always have a check on these microbes.
Hope this article helped my readers to understand how important “The Gut” is. I wish my readers to have a healthy gut and stay free from diseases ever.
“Psyche” means “Mind”, “Soma” means “Body”, and Yes Psychosomatic is something related with one’s mind and body. More problems in your mind will cause a pain in your body. With more depression and stress deep inside your mind generates a pain in the weakest spot of your body.
Even after various consultations and numerous tests there will not be any reason or medical cause for that pain. This will be a sharp lasting pain, but we cannot understand the root cause. Many should have experienced this in their life.
I have also experienced it. I had a sharp pain in the back of my shoulder for the past 6 years. Furthermore, I did many tests and consulted even with specialized doctors, all their answers were the same “You are completely normal”. This pain started protruding more after my father’s death. As you all know that losing your loved one will make you go insane and that’s the time when you need to fight with the highest amount of stress and depression.
Other symptoms of psychosomatic illness – Weakness, shortness of breath, pain, sleeping difficulties, tense muscles, High blood pressure, ulcers, acidity, skin problems and even heart disease in serious cases.
Basic reasons for becoming psychosomatic
Person with excessive thoughts and anxiety about their problems.
Excessive time and energy spent on concerns and worrying too much.
Being fearful and sick even if they are given evidence that there is nothing to worry.
Feelings and behaviors will be out of proportion.
Stress and depression.
You can collate your body to pressure cooker. Just like the pressure inside the cooker rises and vents out steam in the weakest spot, the excessive thinking in your mind rises the pressure in your body, finally releasing the pressure as pain in the weakest spot of your body. For example, if your neck is the weakest point you will feel pain in the neck, likewise if your stomach is the weakest point then you will have pain in the stomach. Similarly, you will have back pain, leg pain, headaches and the list goes on.
How to overcome this psychosomatic illness
* Learn to accept the fact
* Go with the flow
* Think with more positivity
* Feel grateful of what you have often
* Never entertain excessive thinking.
* Confidentially find the source of the stress and eliminate it.
There is no one without problems in this world. Every individual has his/her own agony. Even animals also have their own problems and sufferings. The only technique to solve it is to face it and fight back. You need to see and learn how others are fighting their depression positively.
Be more practical rather than emotional.
The pain you feel in your body is real. So, according to me psychosomatics is real. Now my pain is almost cured, all thanks to my loved ones and well-wishers for strengthening me in my tough times and guiding me productively. Time, prayers and reading good books, staying around positive people will definitely cure your stress and problems.
Hence, I request my dear readers to find if you are psychosomatic and act wisely to come out of it. You can check out some amazingly interesting books on this topic here. See you in next post. Stay tuned.
“WATER – The very first need of every living being”
Water – The All Rounder. We drink it, cook with it, play with it and use it for granted. Water is present everywhere inside and outside us. A normal human body is filled with 60%-70% of water and hence we would die if we don’t drink it. Water intake can be of any form like water, juices, your foods, and other beverages. Having access to clean drinking water and maintaining a hydrated body is a boon and a blessing. We hardly realize its astonishing properties.
Why do we need to drink water?
To lubricate and cushion the joints, for proper working of every cell, tissues and organs, for absorption and circulation, maintain body temperature, creation of saliva, transportation of nutrients, nourish the brain and spinal cord, to relieve our stress.
Water is not only present in the blood, it is also present in an adult’s brain and heart (3/4th quarter is water only). This is similar to a moisture content in a banana. Lungs have 83% water just like an apple. Even the bones have 31% water in them. Kidneys and muscles have 79%, Skin has 64% water.
If we have this much amount of water inside us then what is the need to drink more water from outside?
The solid reason is every day 3-3.5 liters of water goes out from our body in the form of sweat, urine, motion, even as a breath. So, to compensate for the water loss we need to drink water and eat watery foods equally. Either over drinking or less intake of water is alarmingly serious, leading to serious illness.
Dehydrationor less intake of water
Dehydration leads to Cognitive impairment, loss of energy, drop-in mood, bad or no moisture, overworking of body parts, yellowish urine. Even our brain may shrink its size in serious cases.
Hyponatremia or overdrinking
Hyponatremia causes problems in regulating water levels, sodium electrolytes get very diluted, bloating, vomiting, seizures, headaches.
Do we have to drink 8 glasses of water every day?
You all should have heard about this goal to drink 8 glasses of water daily. Depending on your weight, BMI, sex, environment, and how active you are, water intake varies from person to person. Some people require more than 8 glasses and some other requires only a few glasses. The adequate fluid intake according to “The U.S. National Academies of Sciences, Engineering and medicine” is said to be 3-3.7 Liters for men and 2-2.7 Liters for women.
Drinking water depends on,
Exercise – Exercises will make you sweat a lot. So you need to drink more water before and after your exercises to compensate for the fluid loss.
Environment – Hot or Humid weather causes more dehydration, which in turn is quenched with watery items.
Sickness – When you have a fever, vomiting, or diarrhea lots of body fluids are lost. So you definitely need to have lots of fluids intake during this time.
Pregnancy – Generally Pregnant ladies and breastfeeding mothers will require more fluid intakes like water, juices, soups for themselves to stay hydrated.
Foods having more water content – Mostly all the fruits and vegetables, watermelon, spinaches, fresh meats. Always go easy on sweetened drinks, energy drinks, or soda as these only increase the calories and sugar in your body and gives you no good.
Drink water the right way –
Sit and drink water in a more relaxed way, it is the rightest way to drink and this also maximizes its effectiveness. Drinking cold water gives you more bad effects and illness. So always try to drink warm water or room temperature water whenever you are thirsty.
2 glasses of warm water after waking up- activates internal organs and flushes toxins out.
1 glass of water 5mints before taking bath – lowers blood pressure.
1 glass of water 30mints before and after your meal – aides digestion.
1 glass of water before going to your bed – regulates blood flow, gives good sleep.
Check this Hydration Calculator to know how much water your body requires per day. Water is the best natural remedy. My dear readers, I request you all to drink clean water to lead a healthy life and stay hydrated with positivity.
Hello my dear readers, wishing you all a very Happy and Prosperous 2021.
Stress is the prime factor for many illnesses.
So, What is this Stress? And how it is related with Cortisol?
Stress is one of the nature’s gift just like happiness in us. Every living being requires this stress to lead a healthy life. The only thing we need to take care is to identify between good stress and bad/chronic stress. Always opt for good stress which creates more adrenaline in you and keeps you mentally and physically healthy.
Whenever you are stressed, the hormone Cortisol is released by adrenal glands. Cortisol is almost very essential for every major system(the neurological system, the circulatory system, heart) in our body. Every action in our body requires cortisol. For example, walking with your legs uses cortisol, raising your hand uses cortisol.
Like we communicate with each other, our brain also communicates with our body parts. When the communication between the adrenal gland, the pituitary gland, and the hypothalamus (Part of the brain) is efficient, our body releases the right amount of cortisol whenever needed(24/7). Researches have proved that cortisol will be highest in the morning and lowest in the evening.
Same like other hormones, either too much or too little production of cortisol will affect the body. With different kinds of stress, our brain triggers its release of different amounts of cortisol.
5- Be strong – mentally, physically and spiritually.
6- Always try to have mindful eating.
All you need is, to be aware of your stressful thoughts and signs of your body tension. So, you will learn to recognize what is your stressful thinking. This can be a stepping stone where you can then mindfully cope-up with stress.
You have all the rights to know about your body and stay healthy. By knowing the work of these basic hormones, we can eliminate many diseases at the earlier stages itself. Simple, active and healthier lifestyle changes will definitely help you to reduce the stress you experience and makes you to overcome it positively. I wish you all to stay happy and learn to feed only good stress.
” Calm down and you will be fine “
Nowadays my good stress is to give worthy contents for my readers. Let me know what is your good stress these days in the comment box below.
Everyone in this world has the habit to put off things due to many factors and in different ways. All we need to do is to embrace this habit productively. But before that we need to find which type of procrastinators we are.
Active Procrastinators – These active procrastinators deliberately delay their works to be done, but in an active way. They need that adrenaline rush while performing their work by approaching deadlines. They can manage their time purposefully and feel challenged. Likewise, they are great thinkers too.
Passive procrastinators – This type is something which we all normally do and are familiar with in our day-to-day life activities. Here we deliberately put things off mostly due to laziness and lethargic ness.
A funny example of passive procrastination.
Chronic procrastinators – This is the problematic type and people with such procrastination will suffer a lot. Even their family will suffer mainly because of them. They too have goals, but they never desire to achieve it, and they don’t have any sufficient self-control. Only through forceful deadline they might sometimes complete their works. They know that doing so is bad for them, but they can never stop it, as they are prone to psychological vulnerability.
5 best tips to overcome procrastination
1- Train your sub-conscious mind to say “RIGHT NOW”. It should become a habit to a point that whenever or whatever work it comes you tend to do it automatically “RIGHT NOW”.
2- Love and Inspire yourself. This creates positivity, this in turn pulls positive energies towards you. Do not let yourself depressed, because that creates negativity and destroys any active confidence left inside you.
3- Whenever you are bored and irritated, try to indulge yourself in small activities that you love. Keep your mind occupied in a healthy way.
4- Read books that encourage you, hear good podcasts of successful people and follow the good things which you like.
5- Love and care for nature. When you are around greenery fresh oxygen flows in making you active and healthy. Surround yourself with positive thinking people.
Best 3 books to read to avoid procrastination.
These books are easily available in Amazon.com. I also suggest books and stories of Swami Vivekananda and Mahatma Gandhi.
Eat that Frog! 21 Great Ways to stop Procrastinating and get more done in less time Paperback by Brian Tracy (Author).
The 5 AM Club : Own your morning, Elevate your Life Paperback by Robin Sharma (Author).
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective people by Stephen Covey.
We would have tried many methods to overcome the procrastination inside us. But until it doesn’t become a habit it will always be a failure and results in stress. So, the key to beat them is to honestly understand or find the reason why we are procrastinating it. Find the best way which works for you and strongly follow it.