Procrastination – Standard or Exception

Procrastination is to postpone or delay your action of doing something.

This habit is poshly living inside all of us. For some, it’s occasional (Exception) and for some others, it’s frequent (Standard). Whenever your procrastination is frequent, learn to overcome it, or else you will regret it forever.

Standard Procrastination and Regrets are directly related.

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Pros of Exceptional Procrastination

[Note – I have written these pros only based on those people who use their procrastinating time innovating productively and once the deadline is reached they come out with more potential work. They have repeated their works so many times and are experts in their field of work. These pros are not based on people who just waste their procrastinating time mindlessly. ]

1- Develops focusing power. For example, You have a work and you are procrastinating it. As the deadline approaches, your focus shifts totally on that work and you are motivated to finish it before the deadline. Your thinking is all about new ideas and your focus becomes more concentrated on completing them.

2- Ability to prioritize. We cannot do all the works the moment it shows up. We first need to sort out things based on priorities and needs. Thus we get that ability to decide what works to be done immediately and what works to be procrastinated.

3- Being creative – Just like that many innovative ideas will be created while you are researching your work or while using your procrastinating time productively.

4- Creates happiness. Once the task is completed, Endorphins will flow in proving your happy completion.

5- While you perform doing works faster to meet your deadline, you will find other tough works to be easy and get the confidence of completing it easily.

Cons of Standard procrastination

There are loads of disadvantages of procrastination. Here I have discussed only the very basic reasons.

1- We develop unnecessary fears, pressure, and stress. This invites unnecessary problems to our health.

2- The quality of work becomes very low. As you perform your work in a rushing way, time-pressure disturbs your concentration. Automatically your work’s quality and performance will be poor.

3- We finally fall prey to depression and stress. This, in turn, creates low self-esteem in us and we get addicted to negativity.

4- There is no life satisfaction. We then start telling lies to hide our procrastination and even before we realize it there will be a tower of lies accumulated.

5- We even lose other’s trust, finally ending up in loneliness.

6- It is one of the root causes of obesity.

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Researches have even proved that procrastination is related to psychological vulnerability.

Reasons behind Procrastination are,

1- Being tired and due to laziness.

2- Poor time management.

3- Anxiety about the particular job and Hesitation.

4- Emotional Immaturity.

5- No Pre-planning or any other Planning.

I would like to conclude with a fact that procrastination is an art when it is used productively. You should think yourself, like when it should be used usefully and when should not. Never use it standardly and mindlessly and let it destroy your lives. I wish my dear readers to lead a healthy and mindful life.

Do You Think yourself

Other than your mother and father no one in this world is going to think for you. In this modern internet era, if you ask me, ” Do you think yourself anytime?” then I would say “No”.

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We are being hypnotized by an ample number of external forces. For example, new fashions are popping out daily in almost everything. Most of us go crazy in it and buy things in a way where we are driven by emotions rather than a reason. It has become a money-driven era. This herding behavior has led many people to fall in debt and depression, because of overspending and stressing about it. Check honestly whether the things you bought were really by your own deep thinking and according to the need or bought just like that.

“Is your thinking your own”

If you observe and see, you will notice that our lives are being controlled by the powers of these marketing industries and thanks to the smart internet that it has us in its fingers and makes us dance in its wishes. We don’t even realize this.

This “Thinking yourself ” is achieved with a strong mind power. This takes a while to develop it as a habit, as it needs lots of patience and will power. Many feel it to be unnecessary, boring and thus get under others control automatically. Only you can think for yourself and you can’t expect it from others.

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Steps to make you think yourself :

1- Identify and prioritize your important needs. So that you can access only which you want and dispose the unnecessary.

2- Never believe in others opinions. Just analyse it deeply, research it and find the truth.

3- Learn from your mistakes and experiences. They are the best teachers of life.

4 – Solve your problem one by one. The idea is split and conquer.

[TIP – Write down your problem, in the nearby side itself think and write all possible solutions. This almost solves your problem]

5- Always re-examine what you think and why. Also test yourself often.

6- Be aware of your situations always first and try not to make decisions when you are under pressure, fear or guilt.


The most important person in your world is ” YOU”.
The right self-thinking sets the basis in creating and nurturing your happiness, positivity, self-esteem, confidence and achievements. Hope my dear readers will nurture the right self-thinking and live a happy life.

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Self-Assessment, a Psychological exercise

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Time to Assess yourself..,

1 – How did you grow? Identify the positive and negative traits and think about what life lessons you learned from them?

2- Are you grateful for things or people? Make a top 5 list of people to whom you are always grateful and why.

3- Did you set and maintain any high standards for your inner self?

4- How many times did you seek inspiration and motivation?

5 – Are you doing quality work?

6- Do you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset?

7- Do you love and appreciate yourself?

8- Do you appreciate others for their selfless helps?

9- Are you going behind money or inner happiness?

10- Have you ever been satisfied with what you have?

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Talk to yourself once in a day, otherwise you may miss meeting an excellent person in this world.

-Swami Vivekananda

According to me, Self-assessment is an effective thinking exercise that encourages an individual to become more responsible. This helps to consider their actions and reflect on it. We thereby start to know our own potential, learn to accept, and improve our mindset. With an improved mindset and learning practice, we gain more confidence to face our challenges.

Growing From “No I Can’t ” to “Yes I Can”.

We get ready to welcome changes that create a positive attitude in the inner-self and thus favoring lifelong learning. It is a psychological exercise for self-development. Learning or Knowing about ourselves is the basis for our happiness and the sole responsibility lies only on us.

Advantages of self- Assessment

# Helps to identify your character and abilities.

# Helps to develop a positive growth mindset.

# Makes Learning and Living go hand-in-hand.

# Diminishes “Ego-self”’ and rises “True-self”
  
# Makes one an emotionally matured person.

Thus I would recommend my dear readers to analyse yourself often and find your “TRUE-SELF“. I wish you to get a clear perspective about your thoughts, capabilities and achieve a lot in your life.

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10 Signs of Emotional Immaturity

There are things which weigh you down many times and you feel your energy level to be low and life to be sulking. These are mainly due to emotional luggage hanging inside you. Are you gonna live your life weighing with these emotional things. No right?

Just unshackle them enough to destroy that emotional luggage by becoming emotionally matured. So here, with these 10 signs, learn where you are emotionally immature and work out on that area and become a strong emotionally matured person.

1- People who are dependent on others for all reasons.

Such people will face difficulties in making even their everyday decisions. Here I mean with everyday decisions and not any major decisions( where we definitely need suggestions from others). They will always require advice, assurance, and validation from others. They hesitate to decide because of fear and being wrong. Finally, they end up with their life being controlled by others.

2 – Inability to be alone

 People with this inability will easily become anxious even thinking about being alone. They become deeply distressed and anxious about being alone. At some point in life, everyone needs to be alone, and one should be ready to accept it and face it boldly. Sometimes being alone will make you do more productive works and makes you love yourself more. I consider it as a time to understand your inner-self. Being lonelier is worse than being alone.

3- All talk only and no action.

You must have met many people who talk so sweetly and makes you do their work. But when it comes to reality they will be the first one either to procrastinate or to escape it. They keep on talking about doing something but never takes action or follow through. Because they don’t have the maturity to start anything new.

4 – Being Selfish or aloof.

Here it mainly means lacking consideration for others, and being concerned with only one’s own pleasure and profit. Actually, this will cause your happiness to decrease in the long run. Selfish or aloof people are ready for taking all and giving nothing back. They are always selfish in demanding help but they never credit it. The fun fact is they get angry when that is pointed out.

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5 – Finding it hard to communicate their emotions.

These people might be extremely sensitive even to the smallest issues. Sometimes, unexpressed emotions can be due to the result of hurt in the past, as a result, they start thinking that the best thing is to just say nothing.

Due to fear of rejection, many avoid conflicts and never open up their emotions. Also, they find it frustrated to deal with their emotions all the time. This will definitely change their decision-making ability and also erodes their self-esteem.   

6- Control freaks

These people are generally perfectionists. Whatever work it may be they will be convinced only if they do it by themselves and will not give opportunities to others. They roam with the thought that ” it is done right only by themselves ” and also that they are the only capable people in doing it. They seem to be helpful and concerned but they really are not. Sometimes due to the fear of losing their authority or position they might even go to the extent of doing any nasty tricks.

7- They are Manipulative.

These people will never opt for a compromise. For them, compromise is either like a loss of power or loss of something precious. So, they always try to manipulate people to get back their power or things. They are loaded with tonnes of manipulative skills. Most of them will charmingly act to get much information and discredit them behind.

8- Irresponsible and sulk often

An Irresponsible person will live with a low level of mental happiness and a high level of depression and stress. They are not committed and are with full of ego. They don’t have any personal satisfaction and gratitude for others.

Many times, when a most trusted or loved person hurts us emotionally, the first thing we do is sulking. When the concerned person asks us the reason why we are sad or disturbed, we generally deny it as nothing happened. We simply need the other person to understand things magically without explanation and resolve it. This is also a character of an emotionally immature person. This Passive aggressiveness should never ruin your relationship.

9- Not Trustworthy

Friends sharing information are common. But people who are trustworthy and good listeners will never reveal confidential or personal secrets, however tempting it might be. Hence try to be someone who can be trusted and reveal secrets without any fear of it getting out.

10- Being Hot-Tempered

“Fighting or shouting without understanding what the situation is” is the motto of a hot-tempered person. They do not give a pause or some time to think about the situation. As a result, they don’t get time to work out their anger and their problems will not be solved reasonably. There are many reasons for getting angry soon like conflicts, betrayal, miscommunication, not so friendly, misunderstanding, strangers, etc. It all depends on the situations we face and the good solution comes only by delaying the need to get rid of the problem quickly.

Thus when a person can accept their weakness, faults and recognizes their strength, positive qualities, then they are ready to experience strong self-worth and high self-esteem – Schutte et al.(2002)

 

Just Grapple Your Emotional Maturity

The way to know and study your emotions, managing it however the circumstances is known as Emotional Maturity. In simple words, we can say that as ” Understanding the Emotions”. It can be either intrapersonal (our own emotions) or interpersonal ( other’s emotions).

Happiness is when ” what you think, say and do are in harmony” – Mahatma Gandhi

According to me, this is a skill that is like a base for developing emotional maturity. Life in this modern era is more materialistic, more comfortable, and increasing unhappiness. Even children have advanced exposures almost to everything today.

But, are they really ready to handle those exposures emotionally?

Life is experienced right from the time we are born. We then grow, adapt to this life with help from others. We slowly start to learn our emotions and work on them to get the final result to be happiness and satisfaction. Every time when that happens we definitely feel the relaxation, right.

One of the prime reasons for many crimes is not being able to control the emotions. So, it’s very important to learn to control emotions right from childhood, be it good times and bad times. It’s very important to develop an understanding of right and wrong.

For example, when a kid/person steals something or assaults someone, he/she doesn’t know whether it’s right or wrong. That action by the kid/person is due to his/her emotional outburst. It requires a little Emotional Maturity for that kid/person to comprehend that it is wrong to steal or assault or curse others, which needs to be taught to them by their parents or elders or the society around them. Hence always create a positive and friendly environment for kid’s growth and make them understand between right and wrong.

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People with good emotional maturity are mostly honest, trustworthy, truthful, independent, punctual, have good social adjustments, help others without any expectations, have a positive attitude, have self-esteem, lead a meaningful and satisfied life.

Basic 5 key traits of Emotional Maturity

1- Understand that life is difficult and learn ways to face it boldly and positively.

2- Be more passionate to develop self. Any change to happen should first come from within.

3- Learn to develop a sense of trust in God or in-universe either in self or in life.

4- With enough hard work, patience, and persistence, you develop the habit of a positive attitude.

5- Whatever you do be committed, responsible, and truthful.

To live the best of your life in making conscious decisions, try making these 5 traits like habits, as being emotionally matured is purely our choice. Because as a human we need to be emotionally matured to take care of our self, our family, our time, our finances, our personal life, our society, our country, and our world.

Our life is what we make it

To know how mature you are, click here and get your score.

What is your Maturity Score?

You must have noticed and surprised by many children who behave mature enough for their age. You must have also met many elders or adults who behave childishly or act immaturely. Does maturity depend on age? I say “NO”. First, let us be honest with ourselves and answer the questions given below and get the basic score of our maturity.

  1. The way you handle the arguments or a disagreement with your family, friends, loved ones, neighbors are, A) I tend to remain calm controlling my anger, and listen to them first. B) I ignore the situation and go out from that Place. C) I shout at them, make my opinions clear, and make them accept it.
  2. The way you make your decisions are, A) Based on characters and situations. B) Based on feelings. C) Based on profits that are got back in return
  3. The way you prioritize is, A) Being aware and considerate of other’s needs. B) Being aware and considerate of society. C) Being aware and considerate of my needs.
  4. The way you want your relationship is, A) Trust each other, very few fights, never regret being with them. B) Should be useful and Profitable for each other. C) Take them for granted.
  5. How do you think, like think as “WE” OR “I” A) Almost every time thinking as “WE” B) Sometimes “WE” sometimes “I” C) Almost every time thinking like ” I”
  6. The way you respond to tough situations is, A) Take responsibility and Continue to do what is right in spite of criticisms. B) Just cry and blame others ( People, God, Fate). C) Get shaken up by criticisms and do without any thinking or run away.
  7. The way you commit is, A) Respect and maintain a healthy long-term commitment. B) Commit according to desires. C) Commit only when there is a need.
  8. If you are wrong, you A) Recognize and admit it, also definitely apologize. B) Just shout at others, belittle them, insult them, and ignore being judged. C) What you did was right, thinking that you can never be wrong.
  9. The way you treat other’s success is, A) Appreciate their contribution, hard work, and honor them. B) Just tell all the success was their luck. C) Never accept it as success and never appreciates it.
  10. The way you show wisdom and gratitude is, A) Learn from others too, thanks to all that you have, selfless help. B) Feel ashamed to learn from others, not concerned to show thankfulness. C) Presume they are wiser than others and judge others always.

If your answers are “A” – then 5 marks, “B” – then 3 marks, “C” – then 1 mark.

My score is – 40/50. Similarly, let me know your scores too. Each one of us is not perfect. We keep on growing and learning in each and every situation. We may have been immature too sometimes, but reflecting from that guiltiness is a precious thing. I’m sure that we all are definitely searching the positive ways to change our immature behaviors and try not to repeat them. If you have faced any such experience, I would like you to share those via the comment section.

Let’s be a strength to each other and lift up our lives in a positive way.

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Hacking Happy Hormones

PART – 2 (2 Mint Read)

With a new day comes new strength and new thoughts

– from brainyquote.com by Eleanor Roosevelt

Every day is a gift for us. Definitely, it’s good news as we are provided with lots of opportunities to achieve and to try many new things that can make us happier. Many times we often blame others or situations for our unhappiness. But this is not true. We are responsible for our own happiness. It all happens only with the way we think. THINKING IS DIRECTLY RELATED TO HORMONE PRODUCTION

All that we are is the result of what we have thought

Buddha

Idea is that we need to boost the production of our Happy Hormones only to a point where we will feel good or make ourselves relaxed, happy, and satisfied. Neither more nor less, as overproduction of these Happy Hormones also has its own disadvantages.

Ways to Hack Serotonin

SYMPTOMS of Low or No Serotonin – Loneliness and Depression, unhealthy attention-seeking behaviors.

Tips for hacking

1- Expose yourself to the sun (Vitamin D) for 10 minutes.

2- Think about your Past achievements.

3- Feel how significant you are.

4- Practice gratitude.

5- Re-live the good things you have experienced.

6- Take a walk and breathe in your favorite place.

7- Admire nature’s beauty.

8- Appreciate and love yourself.

Ways to Hack Dopamine

SYMPTOMS of Low or No Dopamine – Less or no enthusiasm, Procrastination, low self-esteem, and self-doubting our abilities.

Tips for hacking

1- Create small-small goals and achieve them.

2- Recognize those achievements and gift or compliment yourself.

3- Create new goals before achieving the old one and keep on accomplishing it.

Ways to Hack Endorphins

SYMPTOMS of Low or No Endorphins – Pains and Aches, sleeping troubles, increased anxiety, stress.

Tips for hacking

1- Regular Exercises.

2- Laughing therapies (All ways to laugh deep from your heart). For example seeing comedy series or shows, reading comics, sharing jokes with friends, or even just being with friends brings us the laughs, being around humorous people, etc.

3- Getting a good aromatherapy massage, smell of lavenders, and some dark chocolates too, do their part of endorphin production.

Ways to Hack Oxytocin

SYMPTOMS of Low or No Oxytocin – No love, stress, fear to communicate or socialize, low libido, no trust.

Tips to hack

1- Play with babies.

2- Getaway with your loved one ( hubby, fiance, boyfriend ).

3- Have a romantic day or trip or at least a walk.

4- Try hugging your loved ones.

So, What are you waiting for! Just check which Happy Hormones you are lacking and try boosting it with those above tips whenever needed. You totally deserve your happiness. Though life shows lots of ups and downs, stay healthy Physically and Mentally with lots of happiness within. . Don’t ever stop learning to “Stay Happy“.

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Happy Hormone Family

(PART – 1) 3 Mints read

Happy brain chemicals: Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin and Endorphin
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How do you feel today? What are the reasons of the way you feel? The mood which you have or which you show, directly depends upon the hormones you produce. You can simply hack the production capacity of your happy hormones and make your mood happy. Read more to find how to hack the happy hormones and change your mood.

As explained by  Dr. Ananya Mandal, MD, clinical pharmacologist

Hormones are chemical messengers that are secreted directly into the blood, which carries them to organs and tissues of the body to exert their functions.

Mandal, Ananya. “What are Hormones?”. News-Medical. 01 November 2020. <https://www.news-medical.net/health/What-are-Hormones.aspx&gt;.

The family of happy hormones includes Dopamine, Serotonin, Endorphin, Oxytoxin.

DOPAMINE

A feel-good hormone, a neurotransmitter, an important part of brain’s reward system. It is the celebrity star among the other happy hormones. This creates pleasurable sensations and makes you come back for more. So, whenever you are happy, feeling good and feel accomplished, thank your brain for producing good amount of dopamine. The easy way to increase your dopamine level is to accomplish something ( Set and achieve any milestone).

SEROTONIN

A happiness hormone, a neurotransmitter. Responsible for regulating your mood, sleep, appetite, digestion, learning ability and memory too. So, whenever you have good sleeps, good digestion and happy learning you should know that your serotonin is doing great. So, for an instant increase in your Serotonin hormone ,a tip is to do meditation and pranayama.

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ENDORPHINS

A pain killer hormone( means it blocks Pain signals). This hormone acts as a natural Pain reliever. Acts against your stress and discomfort. By eating your favorite healthy food and working out, you can increase your Endorphin hormone production.

OXYTOCIN

A Love hormone. This hormone promotes trust and bonding in relationships. This also plays a very important role during child-birth and breastfeeding. Whenever you see your crush, your loved one or someone who attracts you, your oxytocin starts producing in an ample way. So, hugging, kissing and cuddling with your loved ones boosts the production of your oxytocin hormone.

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Hope you understood the basic natures of these happy brain chemicals. Interesting ideas of hacking these happy brain chemicals will be published in the next post.

How to Focus on Satisfied Living?

“The Secret to Happiness…Be Satisfied and Be Grateful”  –  Mitch Albom

How true friends!

There are many instances where people or things or situations make you happy, sad, irritated, angry, and even go Insane. Of all the feelings you have, have you ever analyzed your Quotient of Satisfaction?

Like how satisfied you are in every kind of emotion. If no, then try analyzing from now on. 

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Yes, Satisfaction is a Motivator and an important part of one’s quality. It is the art of creating positive for every negative. Satisfaction depends upon the Individual’s environment, nature, and behavior. 

Going down let us learn How to focus on Self-Satisfaction and lead a tension-free life.

Who Are Satisfied People?

No one is perfect in this world. But people who are aware of their situations and accept life perfectly and positively are satisfied people. They spend their life being grateful for what they are, for what they have. 

Many such people always either Motivate others or be Self-Motivator. They are not money minded. They devote themselves to prayers, writings, or doing any creative,  and calm works that make their mind happy. They always feed their Mind with Powerful Positive thinkings.

How to Focus on Satisfied living?

To focus on anything is easy, but being Consistent, and Persistent in it is the toughest part. It needs strict discipline and a powerful mind to focus on the long run. (Don’t  you accept it?)            

 Yes, exactly.

Even a small seed focuses on coming out, then it becomes a Plant. After all the difficulties it has seen in life with consistency and persistence,  it succeeds into a very big, and strong tree. This way you should also be having a very strong focus and strong will power in achieving a Satisfied Living. 

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Now let’s see what to do to focus on satisfied living.

What to Do to Focus on Satisfied Living?

It’s very simple. Just bring some small changes in your lifestyle as follows.

  • Meditation, Prayers
  • Exercise and Yoga Asanas
  • Set a Goal
  • Eat Healthy Foods
  • Show Self Love
  • Express Gratitude
  • Nurture Healthy Relationships
  • Sleep Well (7-8 hrs)
  • Achieve Something
  • Read Good Books

By following these Active Lifestyle Habits, you can definitely Improve your Life Satisfaction. As a result, your Quality of life Improves.

Is A Satisfied Life Better Than a Successful Life?

So, which is more important to you, Success or Satisfaction? 

Yes, you are right, its satisfaction.

In Latin “Satisfaction” means “to make” or “to do Enough”. Satisfaction is decided on your own, like your own mind, soul, and heart. But Success is measured only by others. Satisfaction is an Emotional Interaction throughout your life. Without Satisfaction, none can lead a peaceful and happy life. It just clears out all your tensions, anxieties, worries of your daily life. 

                            “Be Happy and Satisfied, 

                                    Becoz the Life 

                                 We are Living is 

                              Dream Life for Others” 

                                               – iamabhiboy,YourQuote.in 

Factors Affecting Satisfied Living

There are many factors affecting Satisfied Living. You can find some of the Important and highly discussed factors below.

  1. Personal needs – This includes all the Physiological and Psychological needs.
  2. Environmental needs – This includes all family relationships and social relationships.
  3. Educational needs – This includes the degrees, jobs.
  4. Financial needs – This includes money and savings.
  5. Personality needs – This includes all mental and physical health needs.

Conclusion

A Person is said to be Happy only if he/she is Satisfied in all aspects of life. 

So, always choose a life of having a Satisfaction of Simple Desires. This ultimately gives you lasting pleasures.  Friends focus on Satisfied Living thereby improving the quality of your life and happiness.

 I would like you to take this “Satisfied Living” as a Challenge and try ways to focus on it for a month at least. I am Very Eager to Hear all Your Results.   

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