Are you sad with something? Whenever we feel ”Ok, this will be fine and will come out good ”, the table turns exactly to the opposite and fails our expectations.(Often happens to me). We feel exhausted and life ahead seems tough right.
This is were we should hold up ourselves and keep-up our mind to think straight. Though you feel very dejected and hopeless, never let yourself down, then ……..NOTHING CAN STOP YOU.
Look for opportunities in the mistakes you made, think what went wrong, sort it down in a paper, analyse the possible solutions, what is to be done next, who all were in loss because of this, how to overcome it, put value in the effort, recognize where you can do better…………then NOTHING CAN STOP YOU.
This is what is called as having positive growth mindset.
Success is when you look back at your life and the memories make you smile, living around and with lovable people whom you can trust heartfully.
Whenever you fail, get up back again slowly and try getting inspirations. Read more, have thought provoking conversations and check what is your perspective each and every day.
Keep Growing! with your own set of positive values and rich thoughts, create a fertile land of mind with blooming flowers shining in it as your happiness and satisfaction. Then ………NOTHING CAN STOP YOU.
When you have a deep faith in your abilities and an unbeatable fighting spirit, then NOTHING CAN STOP YOU in succeeding your pursuits.
Please do not think that homemakers are living the life of luxury with no job and no stress.
The work of homemaker never ends. Amidst an endless whirl of chores to complete and people to take care of, they are the one who keep their families positive and in good health. The life skills and responsibilities are being inculcated to your kids only with the way they live.
Being a homemaker can be an option for some but a requisite for others who does not have a support. Be it dealing with any kind of responsibilities or keeping the children entertained all day, they are always unique and mesmerizing in their ways. So, there is nothing inferior or get embarrassed in saying that ” I am a homemaker”
Many might have given up their careers to help their spouses or to take care of the elders or to take care of their children. It is the biggest decision to make and also it needs immense patience.
You have such a superhero in your home, then make sure to help them instead of increasing their work load and be with them in their difficult times. Try to fulfill their small-small wishes and see, they will be deeply satisfied.
Times are being changed where people irrespective of their gender are willing to take the role of homemaker and its a choice to be respected.
Many working people are envious of well positioned homemakers and honestly deep inside they too are craving for such life. So, always be proud of you. Life is all about being the best version of yourself in whatever you choose. It is all about being happy and satisfied, feeling grateful and being positive and not to follow a copy -cat running race.
Do you need tips to know how to be an efficient homemaker, then click here.
Ok, let us start our topic by answering the below questions honestly, looking into the mirror( I mean to face yourself or look into your eyes).
1- Are you true to yourself?
2- Do you compare yourself to others?
3- Are you your own friend?
4- Do you have an open talk with yourself?
5- Do you love and respect yourself?
Were you able to answer honestly and easily? Then you have a wonderful relationship with the self in you. And I sincerely congratulate you for that.
The one and only person linked directly to you, knows all your secrets, all your positive and negative sides is only “YOU”. Even if you have people who are really close to you and knows you very well, the fact “that the only one unique to you is yourself” can never be ignored.
One’s relationship with oneself is very important for a healthy development both physically and mentally. So, I kindly urge you all to develop a healthy self-love. Now, you can ask me, “I know myself very well and what’s next?”
How well you are into you?
Do you take enough time to know all your strengths, your weakness, your dreams, your hopes, your behaviors and your characters?. If possible try to sort it out writing in a paper.
We each have our own beliefs, desires and morals. Just focus them on developing your positive own-self. I wish my dear readers to be an happy, healthy and a lovable human from the inside. Start analyzing yourself and bring out the best version of ” HAPPY YOU”
“I once read that people who study others are wise but those who study themselves are enlightened”- Robin.S.Sharma
The first woman to set foot on American soil from India. The first female to study and graduate with a degree in medicine in the United States.
On the eve of woman’s day week, I would like to write an article about this amazing & inspiring young lady & her husband, who achieved something that was seemingly impossible 140 years ago.
Born in an orthodox family, Yamuna was married at the age of 9 to a widower (Mr Gopal Rao Joshi), who was 20 years older than her. As per the tradition, Yamuna was given a new name “Anandibai“, meaning “Joy of art“, by her husband. He not only gave her a new name but also a new identity.
Though he was only a postal clerk, he was a progressive thinker and supporter of woman’s education of his time. A time when women were not even allowed to be educated, he decided that this woman should study and made her to study Sanskrit and English.
At the age of 14, Anandibai gave birth to a baby boy who died 10 days later because of unavailable medical care. The pain was immense, but this incident shaped the young girl’s belief and ambition to become a doctor herself. Knowing her stern interest her husband fully supported her & started to seek help from American missionary to make her study medicine in the United States.
Theodicia carpenter, a resident of Roselle, New Jersey happened to read the letter written by Mr.Gopal Rao to Royal Wilder, an American missionary. She was totally impressed and offered them her help.
But the poor little Anandibai’s health was declining with weakness, frequent headaches, fever and breathlessness. Though she was suffering, he wanted her to set an example for other women in India to study. Finally, because of his work he decided to send her to America alone.
The orthodox society censured her and criticized her strongly. They even pelted stones on her. With all those hardships the young girl traveled safely to New York. Before leaving she gave a speech at Serampore collage hall, she stressed the need for female doctors and goal of opening a medical collage in India. This inspiring speech received many applauds and support .
She joined women’s medical collage of Pennsylvania (Now Known as Drexel University collage of medicine). Her Medical education started successfully at the age of 19. By now she also got tuberculosis due to cold weather and unfamiliar diet.
Nevertheless, she graduated successfully an MD on 11th March 1886 along with other two women ” Kei okami and Tabat Islam Booly”, who were all their respective country’s 1st woman doctors. Even queen Victoria was very much moved and sent her a congratulatory message.
Upon returning to India, she received a hero’s welcome. She was also appointed as physician- in- charge of the female ward at Local Albert Edward Hospital Kolhapur. But unfortunately she succumbed to tuberclosis and died at the age of 22 (26th February 1887).
Mr. and Mrs. Gopal Rao Joshi’s life story succeeded in converting countless minds who doubted woman’s capabilities. Mr. Gopal Rao with his headstrong beliefs was the driving force behind Anandibai . He succeeded his vision and dream of making his wife a doctor and being the best role model for other women. She also finally proved to be his “Anandibai” – “Joy of Heart” .
Dear readers I was totally impressed with each and everyone of the characters here. I give them my heartfelt salute and I will be always proud of them.
“To be happy for what we have or to be unhappy for what we don’t have”
Which one do you want?
I am disciplining & learning myself to be happy with what I have, but the monkey in my mind drags me to the other side many times and the result is, myself getting sad.
Hmm… still a long way to go dear readers. I know many are there like me. Let us keep fighting with that monkey mind and dominate it with “Count your blessings”.
When you find other people are worse off than you are, you will learn to count your blessings. Realize that there are good things about your situation and learn not to complain too much. Be thankful & grateful for what you have.
Count your blessings,
Daily in the morning,
Daily in your prayers,
Daily before you sleep.
Count your blessings ,
Whenever you are grateful,
Whenever you are happy,
Whenever you are sad.
Count your blessings,
Whenever you get,
Whenever you give,
What ever you get.
Feel how beautiful your life transforms when you regularly practice this. I know, life is full of ups & downs, but I will assure you that this will make you mature enough to accept the facts & act accordingly with self content.
This is the base for self-improvement. With this practice you will learn to identify others who fake in front of you.
“We seldom think of what we have, but always of what we lack” – Scho Penhauer.
So, the choice is always ours, whether we need to be happy and grateful with what we have or just regret or suffer or be unhappy with what we do not have. Rest you need to decide it my dear readers.
Yes! Eustress is the stress that keeps us healthy and happy.
You may all ask me,
What! How come a stress keeps us healthy and happy? There is no way, stress only leads to depression.
Yes I do agree with you. But to your knowledge there are positive stress and negative stress. Almost all of us are aware of negative stress that leads its way to depression and yes, there is also this positive stress named EUSTRESS which will only make you happy. It is a stress that leads to the feelings of excitement and delight.
This name EUSTRESS was derived from Greek prefix ”Eu” means ”Good” by the famous endocrinologist Hans Selye.
Let me give some examples which almost everyone should have experienced it and many might cherish those still.
Almost all of your firsts. The first day at a new job, proposals and dates, day of marriage, pregnancy, holding a baby for the first time, seeing your crush, your first bike ride and car rides, travelling to your favorite places, a scary movie, the excitement of a roller- coaster rides, playing games and all those amusing challenges come under the wings of Eustress.
This kind of stress always inspires you and shoves you to perform, grow, and learn as a better person.
Hence, eustress is a must for our overall wellbeing.
Signs of eustress in you :-
Accepting challenges of your limit and working on it positively.
Accomplishing your smaller goals which paves way for achieving a larger goal.
Being in a motivated mood.
Being happy and helping others without expectations.
Loving yourself and approaching problems in a positive way.
Too much of anything is good for nothing. Yes you cannot be in an elated mood always, you will definitely need some time to relax yourself and rest well in your leisure time. Stress management is an ocean and eustress is like getting a pearl from the ocean. So, my dear readers learn to use this pearl(eustress) in your life rather than embracing the distress(negative stress).
"It's not the stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it"- Hans seyle
The capability of making your stress into an eustress definitely needs a lot of practice, but its result can bring a lot of fruitful change in your stressed life. It all depends on your perspective. Thanks for reading it and always stay positive.
“You are what your gut bacteria eats “- Dr.Ayala, Physician(Pediatrics and medical genetics)
Your gut works healthy when you have daily bowel release without any abdominal pain and bloating. So, only your lifestyle and healthy eating habits play the most significant role in shaping your gut microbiome. Eating fiber rich foods not only nourishes and energizes your gut but also maintains it healthy in a long run.
Ok my dear readers, lets jump straight into the 10 important points for a healthy gut.
1- Drink enough amount of water or green teas or juices, soups and always stay hydrated.
2-Have a healthy balanced food and maintain a healthy body weight. Please don’t over-eat or crash your food intake.
Say in mind always that “We are eating to bring good health and not for taste alone”.
Are you someone who finds joy and peace of mind during rainy days, then you are a PLUVIOPHILE. A pluviophile will feel rain as, a lover who has been away from you and has finally come back to you. That much of happiness they feel when it rains.
The notable persona of pluviophiles:
They are introverts and have calm personality.
Nostalgic about rain.
Good listeners, they love to sit in silence and listen to the beating of rain droplets.
Talented people and their mood is highly influenced by rain.
Addicted to sound and smell of rain when it hits the earth and sounds of running water streams.
When it rains, everything becomes more Beautiful:
Whenever it rains, everything gets cleaned and a new look is achieved. We can even see the plants and flowers changing amazingly beautiful after rain. Even Earthworms come outside only when it rains. The sky also looks bright, clear and alluring.
Rain, the Healer:
“Rain produces a sound akin to white noise. The brain gets a tonic signal from white noise that decreases the need for sensory input, thus calming us down”, says the therapist and anxiety-depression specialist Kimberley Hershonson.
I can sincerely say, that rain is the nature’s soul cleanser. Whenever it rains, almost everyone likes to grab their favorite drink and occupy their favorite place and enjoy the rain. I like to sip a cup of hot chai with vada or bhajji and watch those rain bubbles endlessly. It’s one of those times when I forget all my worries and I firmly believe that rain evokes the positive vibes inside us.
Rain, Brings out the child in you:
Though many adults may hesitate to puddle in water, children are attracted to rain puddles each and every time. They either chuckle jumping on it and feel the splashes or float things like paper boat on it and much more. Elders cherish those scenes and usually tend to remember their childhood days. I have seen many people playing and dancing in the rain like children.
Though many people think rain as a nuisance sometimes, because of having to disrupt their plans, clothes getting soaked, fear of getting cold, I request you all to enjoy the rain and be thankful to the magical nature. Yes, rain is the heaven’s and the nature’s way of blessing and beautifying the world, thereby creating a way for life.
If you are a Pluviophile, then you should definitely visit these best 5 places. Additional Pluviophile loving places are Kerala and Meghalaya in India.
Dear readers, let us all enjoy the pluviophile nature in us and create cherishing memories. Thank you for coming and reading it. Always stay happy with positivity.
Welcome to the Work from home era. Covid 19 has totally changed the way of working and life has become more complicated to earn money. With jobs becoming more and more competitive, workers are obliged to be committed more. Traditional work hours has been abandoned. Many will be multitasking, trying to balance their home life and office life.
But definitely the office life will be dominating your personal life, right! Working late nights and virtual discussions should have become a new normal.
Work-life balance doesn’t mean giving equal hours for work and personal life. It is something connected with the right time spent for working and the right time spent with family and doing things that you like. I know that it all depends upon the job you have, personal situations, age and hobbies, we can never neglect that.
There is a famous proverb saying,
”Work while you work & play while you play”
If you mix up both then you are going to suffer with work-life imbalance. If this still continues for a long time then you are creating distress for everyone. You are also prone to physical and psychological stress leading to lack of focus and degrading productivity.
With greater works being piled up daily, the employees are forced to fulfill the demands on or before the said time. If not, then they might even lose their job or get scolded from the higher ups. Work from home comes with many perks, the top most one is saving time and money for commutation. But each and every individual has his/her own pros and cons.
Working from home also had its own disadvantages like many felt isolated, many were unable to face the reality, many got demotivated, even many faced emotional distress. Parents got an additional job of becoming a full-time teacher for their kids. Some might relax with grown up children, but think about the small kids.
PROVED RESEARCH POINTS INACHIEVING HEALTHY WORK-LIFE BALANCE
1- Create boundaries between work and personal life. Often try to do work-life balance surveys.
3- If work load is very heavy, learn to say no and avoid that extra pressure developing in you.
4- Set some time to do things that you like. Creating a routine schedule will help and train others to adapt, thereby trying to get some personal time.
5- Respect people in home, help them and never take them for granted.
6- Learn to be grateful for what you have, especially loving people around you.
7- Definitely start to learn yoga. It is the best way to relax the body, mind and soul.
Staying healthy helps you to achieve a healthy work-life balance.(Tell me, who dosen’t like healthy people as their employees)
8-Become a little social or follow Peer Therapy – Taking time for others and sharing each other’s feelings.
9- Appreciation and rewarding is another vital power pack in boosting good work-life balance.
10- Planning works ahead will boost the good work-life balance.
Definitely, this new Covid 19 reality made us to think and do things differently. For example, with the absence of domestic help many faced domestic burden especially in maintaining homes, preparing food, taking care of children, sick people and elderly people.
But sharing the work between family members and accomplishing it, helping each other, spending time with our closed ones and children, concerning family, friends and relatives, pursuing a hobby, learning a new skill, many work from home job opportunities made us to win this crisis.
Kuddos to all those women and men who did it single-handedly. Yes, that is a huge challenge to do.
Whatever the situation is, productivity should never get hampered. Yes, who thought we would consult online with doctors? A lot has been taken care now because things need to be done.
A person who is fully dedicated and sincere to work alone, tends to lose his family’s affection and a person who is dedicated to family alone, tends to lose jobs.
I recommend every company to have a healthy company culture and wellness culture thereby nurturing a good work-life balance. Work-life balance is not a far-fetched dream, it requires confidence, consistence and will power to achieve it.
Our Gut runs the vital duties like the intake and absorption of nutrients from the food we eat and the water we drink, thereby protecting, nourishing and maintaining overall health of our body. If your gut’s function is improper then you are falling prey for diseases.
Ok, so what is this Gut?
Medical science says, “It is a very long tube starting from the mouth and ending at anus”.
Hence, the collection of organs like mouth, esophagus, stomach, pancreas, liver, gallbladder, small intestine, colon and the rectum is called as Gut or Gastrointestinal tract.
Whenever you are hungry or thirsty, it is the work of the gut to pass the information to the brain and in turn the brain gives the signal as to when to eat or drink. Even with the digestion process both works together.
For example, if you had a lighter meal the brain signals to follow an easy digestion, and if you had a heavy meal the brain signals it to hold the food in the stomach for a little longer time and results in slow digestion. Only when your food is sufficiently broken down, the gut gets signals from the brain to send it to the intestine.
Brain can affect your gut heatlth and the gut can affect your brain health
Millions of neurons are involved in this connection. The vagus nerve is the biggest nerve connecting the brain and the gut. The neurotransmitters are the chemicals connecting the brain and the gut.
The Gut Microbes Influence the Bodyand the Mind
When a microbe enters your body the brain signals and makes the gut to be fully aware of that microbe. The microbe can be a bacteria or virus or fungi or a cluster of them. Research has proved that the healthy gut produces single chain fatty acids(SCFA) like butyrate, propionate and acetate. These not only helps to absorb the nutrients but also act as the repairmen of our body.
When we get a cut on our skin, the skin starts the immediate process of repairing and covers it with a new skin layer, which we can see through our naked eye. The same process is done by these SCFA inside our body.
Now imagine, when a handful of nails is put in your thin drainage pipe in the sink, the pipe gets teared a lot here and there and thereby leakage starts. Similarly, whenever you eat harmful foods the super soft gut lining undergoes harsh treatment and gets teared here and there causing leakage of microbes into your body. As a result, our internal organs are easily exposed to harmful microbes. They start to attack the internal organs and if your immunity is low then you start to become sick.
So your gut needs to have ample stock of SCFA inside and repair the leakage of microbes fast. Active lifestyle and healthy fiber rich foods produces lots and lots of SCFA.
The gut microbes controls what is passed into the body and what is excreted. The microbes in your gut are so powerful that its quality dominates your mind and have you under their perspective. So, having good bacteria in dominance is preferred a lot. Below is the image of gut microbes.
TIP – If you are craving something like food or drink or a snack, check whether your mind is craving it or it is the cravings of insatiable microbes. If you know this then you can always have a check on these microbes.
Hope this article helped my readers to understand how important “The Gut” is. I wish my readers to have a healthy gut and stay free from diseases ever.